The Secret Survey

The Secret Survey


What Men Desperately Want You To Know (But Will Never Tell You)

Do you ever find yourself staring at a man and wondering what he REALLY wants from you . . . what he REALLY dreams about . . . what he REALLY wishes for in a woman?

If you do, you’re certainly not alone.

According to relationship expert Michael Fiore (who’s appeared on the Rachael Ray show and was interviewed by Time Magazine), the number one thing women wish for is the ability to READ MEN’S MINDS and know how guys REALLY feel.

Unfortunately most guys will NEVER open up to a woman and there’s never been a way to get the actual TRUTH about what goes on in their minds.

Until now.

Michael Fiore recently sent a very simple, very powerful survey to a list of over 20,000 men asking one amazing question…

“What’s the one thing you wish the woman in your life understood about men, but could NEVER tell her?”

If you’d like to learn the answer to that question (what men want sexually, emotionally and intellectually… why men lie to women, why men cheat on women and so much more) you need to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video right now…

 


Due the controversial nature of the video it may not be up for long. If you want to truly understand and be adored by men you should watch it while you can.

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The Magic of Making Up

The Magic of Making Up


What's so great about the book called The Magic of Making Up? Does it really do what it delivers, will it help you in getting your soul mate back or not letting them go? Read below just some of the ways it can help you. You can always skip to the video at the end or go straight to the book.

-How to get your head on straight. Use my Fast Forward Technique and get instant relief from emotional break-up pain and depression...You CAN feel better and within minutes! (Page 13)

-Do they still care? Discover the TELL TALE clues your ex leaves that says you still have a special place in their heart…and I don't care what they say... This is all you need to look for PERIOD! (Page 21)

-Man had an affair? How to fight fire with fire. Inside this magic bag you will discover dirty tricks women use to steal a man. How to neutralize the power she has over him by understanding the ONE THING he craves more than sex, food or ball games. (Page 5)

-Do you know the core reason why men leave women? ...it is not beauty, sex, or a younger fresher face… I am SHOCKED most women can't answer this question. Men desire this ONE thing more than any other…give it to them and they will be yours FOREVER. (Page 5)

-What women crave the most... and if she doesn't  get it…it is only a matter of time  before SHE WILL look for it somewhere else. You can get her back fast once you master this simple technique. (This is  the #1 technique used by unscrupulous Don Juan's use to steal married women.) (Page 6)

exAre they with someone else now? Why this is not nearly as catastrophic as it first appears…and how to use the fact that 90% of rebound relationships never work out to your advantage. (Page 18)

-Were you the one that had the affair? How to use the "clean slate" technique in conjunction with one other secret technique and come a looong way to forgiveness in the shortest amount of time. (Special Bonus Included)

-When to apologize and when you shouldn't. In the right circumstance just one good apology will land you back in their arms…other times an apology will blow up in your face and hurt your future chances. (Special Bonus Included)

-The fastest and shortest path (bar none) back into their heart, mind and soul. This is so counter-intuitive it may never occur to you. (Page 33)

-Wish you could start over? Take away hurtful things you said?  Turn back time? Using a combination of the Clean Slate Method and "breaking the pattern" you can. Quickly and easily.

-The Instant Reconnect Technique - I almost didn't include this one because it may be too potent. It is "psychological judo" and will trick your ex lovers mind into thinking you are still together. This is SUBCONSCIOUS and there is no defense against it. (Page  43)

-Exactly what to say and what to do to get your ex back on a date. Follow my instructions and it will be easy as pie because it will seem so natural. This has worked hundreds if not thousands of times. (Page 38)

-The Bonding Secret so powerful that is partially responsible for the reason hostages sometimes bond with their kidnappers or oppressors (Stockholm Syndrome). This is relationship magic. It is undetectable, unnoticeable and 99.99% of the human population can not defend against it, let alone tell you how it is done. Like ANYTHING, this can be used for good or bad. Once you own The Magic Of Making Up you will possess the power to REBOND or BOND with anyone. Please use responsibly!

-Sex? When you should have sex during the reconciliation process. Both men and women get this completely wrong. Guys you will speed up the process immensely armed with this information. Ladies, most of you nearly destroy your chances because you sleep with him too soon. (Page 46-48)

-What foods toy with your emotions and what foods help put you in balance. Putting your relationship back together is hard enough, make sure you are eating foods that will help you. (Page 26-28)

-Decisions you should actually put off until you are back together. (Page 60)

-How to use the Fast Forward Technique to overcome hang ups you may have with dieting, exercise, self esteem and other challenges that stem from negative feelings. (Page 14)

-Recapture the romance you had when love your love was new. Impossible? Not once you learn the magic of Pattern Breaking and you stir in a dose of the techniques in Chapter 4.

-Ladies if you follow the advice in Chapter 6, he will NOT be able to get you out of his mind - (It's just the way men are wired.)- He will start CALLING YOU again and you will be shocked at the complete transformation he makes!

-Afraid you will just start fighting again once your back together? How to diffuse arguments before they start. This is so simple and works so well you will swear it's "magic"...and it only takes one person!

-And a whole lot more…



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School Of Modern Geisha; Geisha Beauty Secrets - Part Three





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Good afternoon my modern-geisha-in-training! In my opinion (and the opinion of  many men,) the EYES are the most beautiful feature of a woman's face. Of all of a woman's facial features, her eyes stand preeminent for their beauty and ever-varying powers of expression. 

Beautiful or striking eyes are, to some extent, the gift of nature. But when it comes to

How to get a girl to kiss you

How to get a girl to kiss you


You're about to learn, hands down, the best way to successfully get a girl to kiss you without fear of rejection. In the advanced version of this technique, you can even get the girl you're talking to to lean in to kiss you!

So if you've ever been afraid of getting rejected going for a kiss OR you've gotten "the cheek" you know why having a rock-solid technique to moving in for the kiss is 100% crucial. >Skip to the techniques here<

Going in for the kiss is probably the worst place to face rejection in an interaction with a girl because:
1) You've invested a lot of TIME by this point in the interaction, and there simply isn't enough time in your night to get this far and then hit a brick wall and have to move on.

2) Screwing up this part of the interaction can ruin all chances of moving on from here to seduction.
Most guys don't have the chance to learn how to perfect going for a kiss because it happens so infrequently!

Even on a good night, most guys will typically find one girl they hit it off with at the bar where a kiss is probably even a possibility.  >Skip to the techniques here<


So normally, you'd have to face a lot of these rejections one by one to learn the best way to successfully go in for a kiss.
But luckily, I've already gone through all those failures for you (until I discovered this killer technique), and can present the best way to avoid failure and shortcut right to success.
Sound good?

The Kiss Technique makes it so that when you're speaking to a woman, you can intentionally give off subconscious triggers that will make her think about kissing you!
Pretty powerful stuff...

If you use this technique, suddenly making a woman want to kiss you will be something you have control over. >Skip to the techniques here<

If you decide to "wing it" in the stage like most guys, however, you're going to run into problems...
First, you won't know how physically receptive she is to kissing you. A tried and true rule to go by is this:
Your hesitation = Her reservation
So the more you hesitate, the worse your chances get, because she starts to build up all sorts of red flags and reservations.

When you go to lean in for the kiss and you don't do it the right way at the right time, you'll come off as needy (like you don't have a lot of options with women) because if you did have a lot of options, you wouldn't be worrying about the kiss with this girl.

So how do we show that you are absolutely NOT needy (even if you kind of feel like you are) and provide a way so that you will not fear rejection because you will know for sure ahead of time that she is wanting to kiss you? >Skip to the techniques here<

We use what's called The Kiss Technique.
This involves combining two psychological concepts into a perfect recipe for mastering the kiss.
The first concept is called triangular gazing.

This will happen while you have built rapport and are looking to move into seduction. It involves looking from one eye to another, then looking at her mouth.

When you start looking at her mouth, you will subconsciously start to think about kissing her, because this action is already anchored to the thought of kissing someone.

Even if you look at a woman you're not attracted to and look at her mouth, you can start to think about kissing her, and you will become MORE attracted to her.
The good news is...the same happens for women. >Skip to the techniques here<


The even BETTER news is...you can lead her to subconsciously start to do this and feel more attracted. How?

By using the second half of the recipe...another psychological concept called Mirroring.
Whenever we are in conversation with someone, we will mirror the leader of the conversation in an attempt to build subconscious rapport with them.

When you perfectly combine triangular gazing and mirroring, you have a combination that will make her subconsciously think about kissing you.

After talking with her in rapport, start to look at her mouth. At first, only for 2 seconds, then look back to her eyes. Switch between her left and right eye, then back to her mouth for a few seconds longer.

Continue to go from left to right eye and back to her mouth for 2 seconds, 3 seconds, then 5 seconds.
Eventually, you want to be mostly looking at her mouth.

When she begins to look at your mouth as well, you know for sure that she's ready to kiss you.
Voila! The Kiss Technique takes all of the guess work out of "making a move". >Skip to the techniques here<

You will now know with confidence when she wants to kiss you, and get to be the fully assertive but perceptive man that women find irresistibly sexy.

She will feel like you know exactly how to treat a woman and feel safe and confident moving on with you.

Now, if you want to take this technique to the next level and make it so that girls will be leaning in to you and basically begging you to kiss them, you only have to know one magical sentence.

Learn more about the Kiss Technique and the bizarre, magical sentence that activates her "sexual triggers" and makes her lean and practically beg you for the kiss.

How to gain confidence with women

How to gain confidence with women


BELIEVE IT OR NOT, HOW TO HAVE EVEN MORE CONFIDENCE WITH WOMEN

A great deal of success and power with women has nothing to do with how you act and feel about them, but a lot to do with how you act and feel about yourself. What we're really talking about here is SELF-RESPECT.

Plenty of men who wouldn't take a bit of crap from another guy turn into down right spineless wimps when it comes to women. Whether they are reliving old dramas with a mommy they couldn't please as children, or are scared for some other reason, they put the woman first.

Other guys have a slightly different problem. They may not take any crap from a woman, but getting laid is SO damn important to them that they lose sight of other priorities. In a sense in loses all the fun aspects, and gets to be a compulsion.

Guys like this may win the battles, but they are definitely losing the war. Women may be nice additions to your life, and if you find the right one, you might even chose to make her part of the center of yours. But a life spent doing nothing but chasing women is a pretty stupid one.

If that is your problem, then pull yourself up short for a minute, and ask yourself if you might be missing some of the other pleasures life has to offer. You might be shocked to learn that a quiet evening at home with a good book can actually be more stimulating than a boring date with a huge breasted bimbo with a room temperature I.Q.

So here's a hint for increasing your confidence with women: STOP NEEDING THEM SO MUCH! And a good way to do that is going out and finding a hobby that you can really enjoy. Something that gets you AWAY from women.

Not only will this increase your confidence as you are on the prowl, it provides a great escape for when that special lady you are with puts a bit of stress and strain on your brain, as they so often will.

Personally, I prefer Big Mouth Bass Fishing. Most women hate even the thought of some icky, slimy fish flopping all over them, and wouldn't even consider asking to go along with you. And besides, I enjoy catching something with a big mouth, and being able to instantly throw it away if I feel like it. Women are not so easy.

  Resources
1. Dating advice for men
2. How to attract women
3. Get your EX back
 
1. How to get a girl to kiss you
2. How to gain confidence with women
3. How to get laid at a bar
4. Asking a girl out
5. Dealing with Women

How to get laid at a bar

How to get laid at a Bar


HOW TO INSTALL THE SUPER GET LAID ATTITUDES IN YOURSELF SO YOU USE THEM AUTOMATICALLY

There is one small point you have to get before you can use this exercise. Take a minute to imagine yourself riding in a roller coaster. See yourself sitting in the front car, riding up and down.

Now, make another picture of a roller coaster, but this time, do NOT see yourself in the picture. See it as if you were actually looking out of your own eyes, sitting in the roller coaster. Ride for a few moments.

Now, which one of those felt more real in your body? I'll bet anything it was the second kind. An image or goal only appears real to your mind if it comes in the second form, as if you were seeing it through your own eyes.

THE FAILURE TO UNDERSTAND THIS SIMPLE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO KINDS OF MENTAL PICTURES PEOPLE MAKE IS THE SINGLE BIGGEST REASON WHY MOST PEOPLE NEVER REACH THEIR GOALS.

You could imagine yourself acting confident and powerful until you are blue in the face, but unless you give your mind some cues as to when it is going to tap into those pictures you will get NOWHERE. You will never tap into all those great resources you've been imagining.

For ease we are going to call the first kind of picture, where you do see yourself, picture type 1, and the second kind of picture where you do not see yourself, picture type 2.

Ok. Now that we have made that clear, let's get on to the exercise.

Step One:
Recall a time in your past when you felt confident and powerful. A time where you fully felt the way you'd like to feel around women. This can be anywhere and about anything - a great golf shot you made, or an "A" book report you did in school.

Step Two:
Close your eyes, and see yourself in the first kind of picture, going through that experience again.

Step Three:
Now, step into the picture, and see the events as if you were actually looking out from your own eyes. See what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel how good it felt in your body. When those feelings of confidence and power reach their peak in your body, reach over with your right hand, and give your left wrist a squeeze. Run through this twice more, giving the same squeeze in the same place. This will train your mind to recall those feelings of power and confidence whenever you squeeze your wrist the way you are doing now.

Step Four:
Think of a situation or circumstance where you would like to be more powerful with women or more poised or whatever it is you'd like.

Step Five:
Picture it the second way, as if it were going on and you were seeing it through your own eyes.

Step Six:
As you do so, reach over with your right hand and squeeze your left wrist, triggering your confidence anchor. This will train your mind to automatically call up the feelings of confidence and power when you are in a situation like the one you are seeing through your own eyes. You won't even have to think about doing it, which is the advantage. (And that's why anchoring works where "positive thinking" won't, because often by the time you get yourself thinking positively, it's already too late.)

Now, once you've done this, I want you to do it again, but this time I want you to pick different circumstances where you'd like to use your "power attitude" that we talked about in the first chapter. Make one a situation where you see a beautiful woman you'd like to talk to. Another could be making a pass at a woman back at your place. Go through the situation with the first kind of picture, seeing yourself in the picture. Then step into the picture, and go through it, feeling what it would feel like, looking through your own eyes. Do the same thing for the second "learning from your mistakes" attitude. See yourself making a mistake, feeling ok about it, and learning whatever lesson you need so you can do it differently next time. Then step into the picture and see it through your own eyes.

  Resources
1. Dating advice for men
2. How to attract women
3. Get your EX back
 
1. How to get a girl to kiss you
2. How to gain confidence with women
3. How to get laid at a bar
4. Asking a girl out
5. Dealing with Women

Asking a girl out

Asking a girl out


Do you really want to get laid with all the women you could ever possibly want? Then STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOURSELF! Don't make excuses for wanting to look at a beautiful woman. If you're caught looking, and she asks what you're doing, tell her!! Tell her you're enjoying studying just what a perfectly beautiful body she has, and to heck with her if she's too uptight to appreciate a real man who doesn't apologize for knowing what he wants!

Stop making excuses for wanting to meet a woman! Stop making excuses for wanting to ask a woman out, and most of all stop making excuses for wanting to FUCK the living shit out of a woman you want! This kind of direct, powerful, go-for-it-attitude is an incredible turn on for women that can't be beaten!

Listen! It isn't even the words you use that convey this attitude! It's your tone of voice, your facial expressions, your posture, the speed at which you speak, everything non-verbal about you will show this attitude far more than words.

This doesn't mean you have to be arrogant, or lack a sense of humor. You can be warm and friendly at the same time you are being direct and powerful. The key is finding the balance. Once you do you will not be able to keep women away from you.

Now, it's easy to talk and tell you that you should have this attitude, but that won't help you to actually get it. That's why the next couple of chapters are so important. They will show you how to install this attitude in yourself so that you automatically find yourself living by it in your approach to women. You won't even have to try or to "think about it." It will just happen.

Here's the other attitude/belief you'll want to master if you really want to be a success at scoring with women like a madman.

I DON'T GET RATTLED BY SETBACKS
BECAUSE I LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES.

  Resources
1. Dating advice for men
2. How to attract women
3. Get your EX back
 
1. How to get a girl to kiss you
2. How to gain confidence with women
3. How to get laid at a bar
4. Asking a girl out
5. Dealing with Women

Dealing with Women

Dealing with Women


THE ONE ATTITUDE THAT IS THE KEY TO HAVING IRRESISTIBLE APPEAL TO WOMEN AND GETTING LAID WITH THE WOMEN OF YOUR DREAMS

Once, one of my super-scoring buddies invited me to go to a party with him. Not having much of a social life anyway, I accepted the invitation, and besides, this guy REALLY knew how to get laid. I sort of looked at myself as being one of those small sucker fish that attach themselves underneath a shark's mouth and live off the bits the shark spits out.

Anyway, we were wandering around this huge apartment complex, looking for the party. We were walking down a hallway when we passed an open door, and there was a party going on, but it was definitely NOT the party we had been invited to. This was a formal affair; everyone was very well dressed, and my buddy and I were both wearing jeans and scruffy tennis shoes.

Through the doorway I saw a stunning blonde in a low cut dress, surrounded by guys trying to hit on her. My buddy saw her too, looked at me, and went right into action. I saw him walk in the door, cut through the crowd of guys, say something to her that I couldn't hear, and hand her a card and a pen. She wrote something down, and out came my buddy, smiling ear to ear. He had gotten her phone number!

I asked him what he said, and he told me, "I just walked in there, looked at her, and said, `Excuse me. I saw you through the doorway, and unlike these gentlemen here, I don't have time for small talk. I'd like to take you out. Can I have your home phone number?'

Now, it's not always necessary to be that direct. But it is necessary to grasp and use the attitude my buddy had, the super-attitude which will get you laid more than any line, trick, good looks, fancy car or fortune. The attitude is:

I MAKE NO EXCUSES FOR MY DESIRES AS A MAN.

I MAKE NO EXCUSES FOR MYSELF.

I MOVE THROUGH THE WORLD WITHOUT APOLOGY.
  Resources
1. Dating advice for men
2. How to attract women
3. Get your EX back
 
1. How to get a girl to kiss you
2. How to gain confidence with women
3. How to get laid at a bar
4. Asking a girl out
5. Dealing with Women

How go get Laid

How to get Laid




FOR GUYS, GETTING LAID IS A CHORE.
FOR WOMEN, GETTING LAID IS A CHOICE.
Never forget this difference in the balance of power between the sexes. The tricks and tactics you'll learn in this book will make you one of those rare guys who is on the choice side of that power equation.

While we are here I better make something else clear. I do NOT believe that sex is the be all and end all of relating to women. Nor do I believe that it is always necessary or even DESIRABLE to use the tactics outlined in this book, (whether fair or unfair) to get a woman to sleep with you. It is certainly possible that the particular woman you fancy may be smart enough and have enough good sense to want you just as you are, without any games or bullshit on her part. She may also be sane and psychologically healthy enough to express that desire naturally, without any hang-ups or guilt games. You might even find - gasp - that the friendship and intimacy you share with a lady are more important to you than sex. When you find a lady like this, cherish her as the rare treasure she is. Hang on tight, and don't let go!
Unfortunately, based on my own experience, and the experience of hundreds of men I've interviewed, most women do not fit into this category. I wish they did - the REALITY is that they do NOT! The reality is that you, as a man, are going to be sexually attracted to many, many women, very few of whom are going to naturally desire you, and who you can also respect, love and admire.
Many of these women are going to be hung-up sexually, depressed, suffer from low self-esteem, eating disorders, alcoholism, etc. Heck, I even briefly dated a woman who turned out to be bulimic, alcoholic, and was also secretly a hooker! Top that for a dating disaster story!

Now, you may decide, the heck with it. If you can't at least like and respect a lady, and if you have to resort to tactics you learned in a book, then it just isn't worth it, and you will skip dealing with such loser females altogether. I certainly can respect that choice; it's the choice I eventually made myself. But only YOU can make that choice. Even if you do, this book will still be of great value to you, because you will learn fantastic techniques for improving your confidence, meeting and picking up women anywhere, any time, and how to quickly recognize and swiftly eliminate all the nutty-losers BEFORE they get to empty your wallet, bend your brain, and kick your heart in. You'll be able to get rid of the dirt, so you can enjoy the diamonds.


  Resources
1. Dating advice for men
2. How to attract women
3. Get your EX back
1. How to get a girl to kiss you
2. How to gain confidence with women
3. How to get laid at a bar
4. Asking a girl out
5. Dealing with Women

Picking Up Girls

Picking up Girls

 
 

Unfortunately, when you deal with women, you may often find yourself in that type of situation. They expect you to play by the rules, but they feel perfectly free to do whatever THEY want. For example, lots of women are more than happy to spend your money and time, and generally lead you on, letting you think you have a reward (sexual) coming. They talk about sex on the date, touch you a lot, and ACT very seductive. Then when you make a pass, they freak out and scream about what animals men are, how we're only after one thing. Or they let you have it with that famous line "I'm just not attracted to you." Maybe you find out that she was just using you as a social "spare tire" because her boyfriend was out of town for a few weeks and she didn't want to sit at home alone and look at the four walls.

Of course, if you really want to be a "gentleman" you may not find any of this out until the third or fourth date. You don't want to behave like an animal and make a pass on the first date, do you? So you hold off awhile, and then the slap in the face hurts even more.

Now, any chick who pulls this off DESERVES to be on the receiving end of the most unfair tactics you can use. You are under no moral obligation to be her victim, and you are a fool if you permit it.

So, by all means, play fair with a woman until she shows you that she is playing unfair with you. As soon as she starts to pull shit, then either walk away completely or let her have it with everything you have in your arsenal.

And while we're on the subject of fair, is it "fair" that the good-looking and rich guys should get all the beautiful women while you and I have to settle for the dogs? Are you any less deserving of complete sexual satisfaction than some pretty boy who was blessed by genetics and Daddy's bank account? Why should you just meekly roll over, and accept a situation that SUCKS, good buddy, when you can be getting your share, and then some!   
  
Something else to consider: When it comes to sex, women have a massive power advantage. It's relatively easy for even a fat, ugly troll to obtain sexual satisfaction. All she has to do is go to any bar or club, act even mildly flirtatious, and be willing to put out. She's sure to get laid, if not by the best looking guy, then at least by someone. It's much harder for even a decent looking guy to get satisfaction, sexually.


  Resources
1. Dating advice for men
2. How to attract women
3. Get your EX back
 
1. How to get a girl to kiss you
2. How to gain confidence with women
3. How to get laid at a bar
4. Asking a girl out
5. Dealing with Women

Feminine Voice Tips; How To Make Your Voice More Feminine, Girly And Attractive




©2008-2013 The Seductive Woman™

Good afternoon, angel! I believe that one of the greatest and most potent feminine charms to possess is that of a beautiful, well-modulated, and feminine-sounding VOICE. 
In society, in the home, and in the office, a lovely feminine voice proves itself an important factor of desirability and success. 
Besides the ever important beauty and femininity essentials

How To Use Femininity To Attract Men





How To Use Femininity To Attract Men



This new 15 chapter online course explores many of the differences between masculine men and feminine women, and shares the unique femininity secrets of Russian, Asian and Eastern European women.



You'll discover what it is exactly that causes Western men to travel up to four times a year to visit and marry these women in these countries, and the

School Of Modern Geisha; Geisha Beauty Secrets - Part Two




©2008-2013 The Seductive Woman™

Good morning my modern-geisha-in-training! Today's School Of Modern Geisha lesson will be about the HISTORY of Asian beautification techniques. In centuries past, the loveliest sights in Japan were Japan's 'fair daughters.' 

These Japanese lovelies were usually described as being "lithe and graceful" - even if they were plain-looking. Furthermore, when the

How To Make Him Propose Marriage Now










How To Make Him Propose Marriage Now

Nick had been taking up a lot of Catherine's time. They had been dating for four years, with no real progress toward marriage, or any sign of a marriage proposal. 



Nick had told Catherine (under a sense of duress,) that he did intend to marry her some day, but just didn't seem to get her sense of urgency, or ever come to the point himself!



How To Permanently Remove And Reduce Cellulite



©2008-2013 The Seductive Woman™

Good morning, angel! With all the natural and alternative health and beautification knowledge at our disposal, just about any woman can rejuvenate and transform her feminine beauty and figure by committing herself to a new diet, and fitness/beauty regime. 
In fact, a COMPLETE physical rejuvenation and transformation is possible, along with a new vitality and

How To Be Feminine By Showing Kindness




©2008-2013 The Seductive Woman™

Good evening, my feminine lovely! A poet by the name of William Wordsworth once stated that KINDNESS is manliness in a man, and femininity in a woman. I think I'll have to agree with him on that. *Smile* 
I also think that one of the great needs that the world has is more kindness - the pure, natural, unaffected kindness of the heart. 
SHOWING kindness is not

Finishing School lesson; How To Eat In A Fine Dining Restaurant On A Date - Part Two



©2008-2013 The Seductive Woman™

Hello, my precious dove! One of high society's favorite forms of amusement, popular at any time of day or night, is 'eating out' - dining in any one of the fashionable restaurants, exclusive clubs or unique tea rooms to be found in most cities. 

Whether a place is a sumptuous restaurant, with elaborate decorations, softly lighted tables, perfectly trained

How To Look Feminine And Attractive For Your Age Using Makeup




©2008-2013 The Seductive Woman™

Hello, my feminine charmer! In today's beauty and femininity lesson, we're going to learn 'how to look feminine and attractive for your age, using makeup,'  in your 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s.
Of course, masculine, high value/status men like women of all ages who wear and use makeup to ENHANCE their beauty and femininity. But they DON'T like it when women wear

School Of Modern Geisha; How To Be Liked, Appreciated And Adored By A Man - Part One




©2008-2013 The Seductive Woman™

Hello, dear heart! In today's 'School Of Modern Geisha' lesson, we're going to begin part one of an in-depth study on 'how to be LIKED, appreciated and adored by a man.' 
You'll start learning about the mentality and consciousness of the geisha, and how they're liked by many people in general. 
You'll also be studying the feminine personality traits and

How To Look More Feminine At Home




©2008-2013 The Seductive Woman™

Good morning, angel! If you're the more traditional type of woman; a married woman who's life is dominated by HOME interests, aim to look feminine and your best, at all times. 

But how often have you heard that well worn statement; "Oh, I'll just save it to wear around the house," applied to some old wreck of clothing that's no more suited to wearing 'around

School of Modern Geisha; Secrets Of A 'Married Mistress'




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Hello, my modern-geisha-in-training! In today's 'School of Modern Geisha' lesson, we're going to discover 20 of the best-kept 'married mistress' secrets. We're also going to learn about one of the most IMPORTANT roles that a married woman can play, and undoubtedly one that's most neglected or rejected. 
That is being a monogamous, faithful 'married mistress' to

Finishing School lesson; How To Eat In A Fine Dining Restaurant - Part One







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Hello, my feminine lovely! Getting asked out for a dinner date by a high status gentleman can be quite an exciting affair. Dining out at a fine restaurant can definitely give you a feeling of importance, as well. *Smile* 



He comes clothed in his best attire and manners, and you don your most lovely semi-formal/formal dress and most sophisticated air. 



Finishing School Lesson; How To Develop Tact



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Good morning, dove! In today's free online finishing school lesson, we're going to learn about the precious lady-like possession of TACT, and what a precious possession it is! 
When it comes to being a polished, refined and 'finished,' lady, when it comes to cultivating one's elegance, grace, sophistication and poise, it's never too late to begin.

Psychological

School Of Modern Geisha; Geisha Beauty Secrets - Part One




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Good morning, angel. In today's 'School Of Modern Geisha' lesson, we are going to be learning about ideal feminine beauty from the perspective of MASCULINE, high status and powerful men (such as typical alpha males.) 

Not only that, but we are going to be going through the exact physical characteristics - from head to toe - that make a woman attractive or

How to Eat Food Like A Lady - Part Two




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Hello again, dear heart! The  manners of high society ladies/socialites can be successfully  imitated, but without practice, imitation is usually easy to detect.  


Furthermore, some forms of behavior in the upper-classes/high society are meaningless conventions and imply nothing else. To light candles at the dinner table, to refrain from eating fish with a

How to Eat Food Like A Lady - Part One




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Good afternoon, lovely! REFINED, sophisticated manners are what separates a well-bred lady from the majority. 

When it comes to a woman's class or social status, it's not just what she does, but how she acts and reacts that separates her from other women. 

The manners of the middle-upper and upper classes are much more formal, reserved, elaborate, elegant,

Finishing School Lesson/Table Etiquette; Proper Knife And Fork Use



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Good afternoon, my dear! Welcome to today's free online finishing school lesson; 'Table Etiquette; Proper Knife And Fork Use.' 

The correct use of the knife and fork is a mark of an well-bred lady. It's such an important mark of refinement and 'good breeding,' that no matter how correct your conduct may be in other areas, in the upper classes/high society, to

School Of Modern Geisha - Oriental Mystique III





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Hello, my modern-geisha-in-training! Today's lesson will be the final installment in the 'School Of Modern geisha - Oriental Mystique' series. In Confucian thought, a traditional woman was not only a man's equal helpmate, but dependent on him as a feminine and submissive (but strong,) woman. 
When it came to looking after the home, the traditional Asian woman

The Psychology Of A Player/Pick Up Artist - Part 1



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Good morning, lovely. Today I'm going to be sharing you the first in a series of articles on the psychology of a player/pick up artist (PUA.) A man's desire to 'play' women (to seduce and sleep with as many attractive women as possible,) is equivalent to a compulsion. 

A player or PUA isn't motivated by altruistic love and a genuine self-esteem, but by

What Men Want In Women



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Good morning, dear heart! A man and woman in a relationship or marriage should be two against the world; two soldiers fighting side by side for a common goal, two travelers along life's highway, each helping the other to reach the destination of their desires. 

If a woman is WISE about men, she'll conduct herself so that she'll always be the one to whom her man

School Of Modern Geisha - Oriental Mystique II





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Go afternoon, dear heart! The modern geisha needs to cultivate her 'Oriental mystique' to the hilt, and live (whether she chooses to make the admission or not,) like the geisha and the courtesans of antiquity.



Many Asian women (due to cultural differences,) have the traits of Oriental mystique, already. In fact, whether they're aware of it or not, some of

School Of Modern Geisha - Oriental Mystique





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Good afternoon, my geisha-in-training! Today I'm going to be giving you the first part of the 'School Of Modern Geisha' lesson teaching 'Oriental mystique.'


The MODERN geisha has her own brand of 'Oriental mystique.' just like the traditional Japanese geisha, she's a gorgeous, exotic and hybrid personality! 

She's as rare as an orchid, the product of an

The Art of Glamour - Part I







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Good evening, dove! When I think of the word 'GLAMOUR,' it evokes pictures of beautiful women with an air of subtle mystery, sophistication and a piquant allure around them. 



The successful model, the Hollywood actress, the lovely society woman, the 'It girl' - these women are all glamorous. They're glamorous because they've acquired those invaluable

Secrets Of An It Girl




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Hello my feminine lovely! Your feminine PERSONALITY is something to cultivate, to encourage, to preserve, to safeguard, to tend and water and nourish continually, to revere. 

Every woman has a personality, of course, but in some women it seems so admirable and notable that you just can't forget it!

Such an ideal feminine personality will appear in the form of

Why A Sense of Humor Is Attractive In Women




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Hi angel! Women always agree that a good sense of HUMOR and a good attitude is desirable in a man. But I think that it's desirable in a woman, as well. That's because our lives consist of many nagging little things, at which we must either laugh or cry. 

And if we can't LAUGH these things off, as well as see the 'silver lining,' then what hope have we?

In a

Finishing School Self Evaluation Checklist; Essentials Of A Pleasing Personality



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"What does charm reside in? Enthusiasm? Belief in one's own 'star'? In an over-bubbling love of life? It is hard to say. It can depend upon the tiniest little trick of nature - the tone of a voice, in a certain way of laughing, of throwing back the head, of being eager, attentive, of coming into a room. Charm is so subtle a thing, so immaterial, yet it is

How To Tell If He Is Using You - Signs That A Man Is Using You



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Hello my feminine lovely! A question I've been asked many times by women; "How can I tell if he's USING me?' Another question I'm asked is; "What are the SIGNS that a man is using you?"

Before answering, I'll ask them; "What's your intuition telling you?" 

I always ask that question because the sense or feeling that you're being used/taken advantage of by a

How to Find and Attract Mr. Right




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Hello cupcake! Do you want to find and attract your MR. RIGHT, but men don't seem to be noticing you? 

Are you feeling discouraged about your femininity, your life, your physical appearance... and don't think that you'll ever get a man? 

Well, my dear, before we begin today's lesson on 'How to Find and Attract Mr. Right,' I want you to be aware that;

There

Illusions Of Ideal Feminine Beauty




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"Dear God, give us strength to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed. Give us the courage to change the things that can and should be changed. And give us the wisdom to distinguish one from the other." 

Dove, that SERENITY is part of the essence of feminine charm that's possessed by the ideal woman. Such a woman captures your imagination, and

Principles Of Love - Part Two



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Good afternoon my feminine charmer! Every woman has within herself the ability to be LOVABLE and beautiful in her own special way - a way that no other woman can be or successfully imitate. 

Only when you discover that SUPERIOR self...  that Queen-ship status... can you take advantage of the unique position you should be holding in the world. 

Then,

The Principles Of Love




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Good morning my beautiful dove! I'm back from Asia and the self-imposed hiatus, and excited and ready to resume posting regularly again. 

Today's post is going to be rather deep (tee hee,) and sharing with you part one of 'The Principles Of Love.' I do hope you'll enjoy it!

A woman can't touch a man's heart with anything less than her own. Likewise, a man

Effectiveness of Therapy

Advice by: Hank Butch
Place: Shanghai, China

How to make therapy effectively count for you?
Therapy sessions lasting for an hour couple of times a week won’t start to suddenly do wonders for you. It is you who need to put your learning from those sessions into practice in your day to day life.
a. Regularity in meals, daily exercise and a good 7 hours of sleep will start to put you in the right state of mind to treat your emotional state. This is the first step. Skipping this step will only bring you more irritability and dampen your confidence than therapy is not working.

b. As mentioned before, your therapist will carve out a way for you after consulting you. But he plays only a part in your recovery. What you contribute actively through your actions is more important.

c. Your counseling sessions aren’t just a weekly chore that you have to complete. Don’t just go there because you’ve been told to do so or just because you’ve paid for it. Endure through the resistance if you have any, but be sure to open yourself up to your therapist. At no cost should you skip your meetings with your therapist. Be committed to following the activities your therapist asks you to perform during the days between two sessions

d. Remember that your therapist can help you best only if you are completely honest and truthful about your problems with him. Drop all sort of inhibitions. Being rather open will do you more good than being closed.

Is therapy making any progress for you?
When you ask yourself this question, remember that your expectations shouldn’t seek instant results. What you definitely can answer instantly in your first couple of sessions is whether your therapist is suitable for you or he is not.

Also remember, the recovery is associated with emotional lows, moments of irritation, spurts of anger and other such negativity. What you need to answer for yourself after about a month is whether you are seeing a positive change in your overall life.

Here are some questions you can answer to test how far you have evolved:
a. Has my life seen a change in the positive direction?
b. Am I being able to cope up better at work than before?
c. Are my relationships in my family tending to improve?
d. Socially, am I being able to react openly and exhibit myself confidently?
e. Are my goals set by my therapist with me being met one by one?
f. Am I more aware of myself and do I have clarity over my actions?

If you can answer even 3 of these questions in the positive, well, you are tending towards improvement. But don’t get discouraged if you aren’t improving. You aren’t in a competition! Take your issues and answers to these questions to your therapist and discuss. Remember to have a wider outlook towards your entire life and surroundings – if there’s some positive vibe you feel, pat yourself and keep going!

When should you quit therapy?
As your situation improves with time, your bond with your therapist will naturally grow stronger. It would be hard for you to give up your sessions with your therapist after such a fruitful association. So as long as there are no financial hurdles or other commitments preventing you from going for your sessions, it may seem tough for you to call it quits.

The right time for you to get away from therapy is when you personally feel that you have achieved the goals you had set for yourself. It is quite normal for you to see your therapist for a couple of follow up sessions after you have stopped your regular counseling sessions. However, at no cost should you engage yourself into a situation where you make visits to your therapist an indefinite habit. Stay firm on that and be aware of your actions!

Financials about therapy
Therapy is among the relatively expensive treatments, since it calls for some serious amount of time and attention from a specialist.

Few people know, but insurance companies have provisions to cover some limited costs for therapy and counseling. If you are really having a crunch for funding your therapy, you can look out for social centers, young therapists or interns at an agency to keep your costs low.

Be sure to ask if you can pay per sitting and also about possible negotiations if you engage for a longer period of time.


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What is Counseling Like?

Advice by: Hank Butch
Place: Shanghai, China

What are therapy and counseling sessions like? 
You may have to attend your sessions either at hospitals your therapist’s clinic. Sometimes, therapists do pay you a home visit, but that generally is a more expensive proposition. You can expect these sessions to last for about an hour and they can range from as often as bi-weekly basis to about bi-monthly basis depending upon the treatment and your therapist’s approach. 

Your first couple of sessions with your therapist most likely would be that where he tries to educate himself about your problems and your history. You too on the other hand should evaluate your session with him. You should try to clarify to him exactly what you are willing to achieve through therapy, so that you can both work together towards that goal as a team. 

During the first couple of sessions, you must measure your level of comfort and trust with your therapist. So basically you have to know whether: 
-- you are being able to undilutedly share your thoughts and feelings with him 
-- you are comfortable sharing personal and private information with him 

a. When you start off with your first session, there are chances that you might not feel the right click with your therapists. You must absolutely not settle for it if you aren’t feeling the required level of comfort with your therapist. Move on immediately and look out for another therapist 

b. Expect a significant amount of personal contribution to healing yourself through therapy. This isn’t like any other illness where the doctor would work on your body or give you pills to alleviate pain. Your therapist will guide you through the relief, but you will need to actively play a good enough part to pull yourself out. 

c. Attending counseling sessions with your therapists doesn’t mean that the time you spend there would be pain relieving always. Do expect negative feelings and thoughts from the past to come up that will hurt you. However, it is a process of healing. You must communicate to your therapist what you are feeling and what is troubling you. Not only will he guide you through his routine methods, but he communicating with him will educate him better about your state of affairs. 

d. There are chances that the hospital or your therapist’s clinic might not give you the required level of comfort to open up completely and be yourself. If such a problem persists, do raise it with your therapist.

How long does therapy last? 
This is a very relative question to be addressed. Some people who either have a grave problem can go on for close to about 3-4 months, while others with relatively less complex issues may even wrap up within a month. The other factor that can limit your length of therapy is the cost associated with it and how long you can endure that cost. You, however, must set a maximum time period for yourself, which is also reasonable. Setting such a goal helps you from falling into the same loop over and over again. It is not to pressurize yourself and can be modified as your treatment progresses.


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Types of Therapy

Advice by: Hank Butch
Place: Shanghai, China

What are the different kinds of therapy? 
There are multiple types of therapy and multiple approaches to solving your problems. It would be inappropriate to say that a particular type of therapy works wonders, whereas another one is worthy of being discarded. What is most important is that you feel at ease when you undergo treatment. And as mentioned earlier, it all boils down to the bond between you and your therapist. Now, here are a few types based on the problem you are facing. 
a. Individual Therapy 
If you are facing trouble with yourself, lack of confidence is pulling you down, depression is harming your day to day life, or even if there are negative thoughts continuously riding your mind, you should take to Individual Therapy. 

b. Family Therapy 
If you notice that there is loss of harmony and repetitive conflicts in your family, Family Therapy is suitable for treating all the members of your family. It doesn’t matter whether it is one single individual at the root of it, or more people who are part of the quarrel. The idea is that everyone in the family together forms one unit, so it is ideal for everyone to attend. 

c. Group Therapy 
This type of therapy is best when there are people of the same age group, or same profession, or people with some common link are facing similar issues. It gives you a comforting feeling to realize there are more people like you who too are down with problems that are similar to yours. The struggle through this therapy provides inspiration and ideas that people can borrow from one another. 

d. Marriage / Relationship Therapy 
When couples in a committed relationship or a marriage are having a tough time to work out their differences, it is worthwhile to try visiting a therapist together. Both individuals need to accept the challenge and should be willing to give the relationship whatever it needs to make it work.


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How to Find a Therapist

Advice by: Hank Butch
Place: Shanghai, China

How to Find a Therapist to Heal Yourself?
It is only understated that therapy and counseling can be effective for treating your disturbed mental state. Choosing the right therapist is the first step towards making you feel better and changing your perspective towards life’s problems. 

So what really is a Good Therapist? 
To begin with, your therapist needs to be experienced. An experienced therapist will ensure that you can trust him and will make you feel he is the right person to open up yourself to. However, beyond just being someone who listens to you, he’ll help you overcome thoughts that pull you down and will motivate you to respond positively in tough situations of life. That said, a therapist isn’t a magician after all! The remaining part of the battle to ensure you come out of your grief depends on how you add to your own progress and how sincerely you participate in relieving yourself from the trauma. 

How do you go about finding the right therapist? 
It takes quite a while to find the right therapist. Sometimes recommendations from your folks and friends might be useful. However, it is essential that your therapist is someone who makes you feel comfortable to talk quite openly about all your issues. There should be a level of trust that you have in your therapist so that he can ease your process of recovery faster. You can start off with a couple of sessions initially to get a sense of comfort and understanding of what you are in for. If you don’t find yourself building a trustworthy and comfortable bond with your therapist, it’s useless to move ahead. Therefore, it would be a good idea to clarify as many doubts as you can before getting in for a session, since each session might be fairly expensive. 

Some basic answers you answer before zeroing in on your therapist 
1. How experienced is your therapist? 
A therapist who is experienced and specialized to treat your problem will tend to facilitate your recovery much faster. If your depression, trauma or disorder is his area of specialization, he is better suited to treat you because he has carved out the right way through years of experience. 

2. What is the mode of treatment and exercises involved? 
This will give you an idea what you can expect when you go in for treatment and also give you a time-frame for which the treatment may last. Some exercises or methods might seem uncomfortable when you just hear of them, but you needn’t have a preconceived notion. 

3. Are there any past references about your therapist that you can gather either online or from close friends?
This background check and performance review of your therapist can help you filter ones who would be not really worth paying for and spending time with. Unless any of your folks take a real hard stand against a certain therapist or you come across any serious bad reviews online, do not form a bias. Answer the first 2 questions by getting yourself involved. 

4. How do your first couple of meetings feel? 
 If you notice a positive change or a positive reinforcement in the first couple of meetings, you can safely continue ahead with your treatment. In case there is a lack of comfort or anything about the treatment that’s making you feel too pressurized, it is best to walk away. Answering a few of the following questions will give you a direction to judge this in the best possible way: 
a. Do you feel your therapist is supportive and you have a sense of bond building up that allows you to open up? 
b. Do you feel that after you open up to your therapist, he really understands your problems and doesn’t just listen to you for the sake of it? 
c. Do you feel any discomfort when you discuss your issues or do you feel he is judging you? 
d. Is there a sense of comfort in trusting your therapist to the extent that you will be able to disclose private and intimate information? e. Are you being able to be absolutely yourself without any sort of pretence? 


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Misconceptions about Therapy

Advice by: Hank Butch
Place: Shanghai, China

Misconceptions about Therapy 
1. Therapy is for people who have lost their mind 
Yes! It’s true that therapy is for people who have gone crazy. Most of us who are facing issues in life tend to live in denial, though to the outer world we quite clearly appear crazy. It takes self-realization to accept that one needs someone to show the right way out of a downward spiraling life. It requires one to lay a fair amount of trust in that one therapist who can possibly restore normalcy and happiness through his expert methods and knowledge. 

2. Therapy is for whiners and complainers 
True again! At the outset it might seem that a certain category of people continue to whine all their lives and need to be treated. However, there are some of us who won’t whine, but will live in denial thinking that no real issue exists. What we don’t realize is that somewhere this issue we live unaware of ultimately stunts our growth, progress and happiness. It requires one to take a hard look at one’s life and further accepting responsibility for one’s state of affairs. 

3. I’m tough and smart to take care of my own issues! Someone like me doesn’t need a therapist!
It often hurts our ego to accept that someone is going to treat our mental issues. It might make us feel that are we so dumb? Are we so weak that we need to resort to therapy? Well, how intelligent you are and how tough you are has got nothing to do with this really. A therapist has a third-person’s perspective of your life and a broader outlook. He’ll lay down your life slit wide open from his angle and then allow you to make choices that suit you best. 

4. Therapists will keep raking up issues about my background 
No doubt about it! However, it is simply wrong to say that therapy is all about digging out issues from the past, people you grew up with and people you were associated with. When you walk in, you are a complete stranger to a therapist. Understand your journey till the present gives him a background and better equips him to understand the cause of your problems. The main focus then lies on solving your problem without your past being raked up! 


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Oral Medication or Therapy

Advice by: Hank Butch
Place: Shanghai, China

Oral Medication or Therapy?
Let us first understand that emotional problems and mental traumas have multiple causes. It could be a break-up, a divorce, death of a loved one, financial distress or some other form of mental torture. There possibly can’t be one magical Master Pill that can suddenly rid everyone of such problems. 

Medication can definitely take your mind off something for a bit or put you off to sleep. That doesn’t mean it is the cure. And oh god, beware of the side-effects too! A therapist can dissect your life to see your problems, understand the symptoms and thereby wisely suggest a way out. It can be tough and will make you feel uneasy to go to a therapist, that’s for sure! However, the odds of lifting yourself from the ditch you’ve fallen into are way higher if you take to therapy as a treatment. 

The solutions and methods that a therapist can provide are significantly more effective and life-transforming than medication. Not only will you see a change in yourself, but you will make sure that the cure remains for a lifetime. 


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Does Therapy Help

Advice by: Hank Butch
Place: Shanghai, China

Why & How Does Therapy Help? 
When you have an outlet to clear a rusted mind, a large part of your heartache gets taken care of almost instantly. A supportive and understanding therapist heals you by giving you the opportunity to voice your concerns and issues. Even if a therapist does it as a part of his profession, it definitely does make you feel cared for by someone who truly understands you. 

You may then think that it would be rather easier speaking about your problems to your own folks. Why a therapist? Well, our folks are simply people who love us and stand by us in our difficult times. They aren’t professionals who can actually get to the underlying cause of your problems. But, a therapist is a trained expert who can counsel you to overcome your problems by getting to the real root cause of it. This is extremely essential when no amount of effort at home seems to help. 

A common misconception is that only people who have a psychological problem are the ones who visit a therapist. However, you must educate yourself that there are a large number of people who take to therapy for day-to-day life issues too. It could simply be stress at work, lack of self-confidence or relationship quarrels. Therapy seems to bring about an improved quality of life for such people. If there are more serious concerns, therapy definitely is a highly viable option to heal yourself. 


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